So…what is Valentine’s Day Really About??

If you know me at all you know that I often question the origins of the many commercially force fed holidays that we celebrate year round.

What Is Valentines Day All About?

Of course Valentine’s day is no different.

I remember as a child staying up to write out Valentine’s Day cards or making Valentine’s Day treats. I was told that is was a day of love and that we needed to give gifts to show people we loved them.

Love? who could I possibly “love” in primary school other than my parents and family? So silly.

But alas it was what we were told so we participated. What a horror if you were the one child not to get a “valentine”. How embarrassing. How disheartening. Did someone not “love” you too? SMH. In retrospect it was really ridiculous. But this is what we were trained to believe. So all of the kids that received valentines assumed they were loved…the more you got the more you were loved and vice verse.

We were told about Cupid and did art projects with hearts and arrows. We read stories of a flying naked baby that shot arrows at people that would suddenly fall in love. I mean…that’s what you want to randomly happen right?

What is Valentines Day all about?

So we grew with these thoughts. A special day in February that someone would love you more than any other day of the year and shower you with gifts. The more gifts you get, the more you were loved. And God forbid that the person you loved forgot this oh so important day…or could not buy you something. It would be war! After all, we were programmed to believe.  Every tv show…every movie…every commercial…warned men and boys around the globe that if they did not participate…there would surely be hell to pay. So every girl and woman knew to expect something good…of else they would have all rights to scorn their mate, fell sad and depressed. But why?

I always wondered why!

Now don’t get me wrong…I enjoy receiving gifts.

I adore fresh flowers.

I smile brightly at gifts of jewelry.

Chocolate is a good friend of mine.

Clearly I have no problem with gifts!

I just always wondered…why the push for THIS day? Why show me love only on this day? Would I decline any of those gifts on any other random day? I mean…why wouldn’t someone wake up on say March 3rd and say, “Let me send Renee Some flowers today because she is so great and I love her”? I mean…”Why not?”

And so…I had to start digging back into the programming that I had been receiving for all of these years. Obviously many others were also being programmed as well. I wanted to know…where did this all start?

So I began to dig. I found a story of a priest named St. Valentine who was determined to allow folks to be married when there was a ban on marriage. When he was found out, he was put in prison and sentenced to a 3 part execution that included stoning, beating and decapitation. Sexy huh? So then the story goes that the day of February 14th was put in place as the celebration of love in his honor.


Something still didn’t seem right. Where did the naked flying baby Cupid come from? The symbolic arrow? the exchange of gifts? I knew there had to be more. So I dug deeper.

Most modern-day “holidays” previously known as holy days have there origins steeped in Pagan celebrations that the church attempted to alter for their own purposes. So I looked to the Romans. I was sure they had to have the answer. They almost always do.

As I continued to dig…I struck gold.


Ah ha! You see…when you live in the age of information, remaining ignorant on a topic is merely a choice. Many people choose to remain ignorant because it’s comfy. I mean…after all…if your mate only wants to give you gifts on this ONE day of the year…who would want to put a stop to that? Seriously! I wouldn’t.

Most folks want to bask in ignorance so that they can continue to receive the benefits. However, I believe that is truly sad if your limiting beliefs cause you to think that you can only receive love and gifts on one particular day of the year. But, we must all decide what is right for us right?

I’ll still accept February 14th gifts. Just don’t tell me that this is the day of love and then wait another 364 years to introduce this so called love to me again. I’m just saying…:)

Ok…so back to Lupercalia. Let’s open your mind today.


What is Valentines Day About anyway?

The old World Book Encyclopedia(Valentine’s Day. Volume 19. 1966, pp.205-206) states:

…the customs of the day have nothing to do with the lives of the saints. They probably come from an ancient Roman festival called Lupercalia which took place every February 15. The festival honored Juno, the Roman goddess of women and marriage, and Pan, the god of nature…The Romans celebrated their feast of Lupercalia as a lovers’ festival for young people. Young men and women chose partners for the festival by drawing names from a box…After the spread of Christianity, churchmen tried to give Christian meaning to the pagan festival. In 496, Pope Gelasius changed the Lupercalia festival of February 15 to Saint Valentine’s Day February 14. But the sentimental meaning of the old festival has remained to the present time. Historians disagree about the identity of St. Valentine”.

Furthermore it also states:

LUPERCALIA…was celebrated on February 15 in honor of Faunus, a rural Italian god. Faunus was later identified with Pan, the god of herds and fertility…Priests…ran around striking all the women they met (Lupercalia. Volume 12. 1966, p.456).

The pagan being named Cupid (a supposed son of Venus) was also involved. According to pagan mythology, anyone being hit by Cupid’s arrow falls in love with the first person he/she sees. One source was bold enough to state,

The church replaced elements of various love-gods (Juno Februata, Eros, Cupid, Kama, Priapus) with St. Valentine, an imaginary Christian. A number of contradictory biographies were created for him…By taking over some of the features of the Pagan gods and goddesses, St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers…St. Valentine’s Day can be traced back to Lupercalia, the Roman “festival of sexual license” (ST. VALENTINE AND VALENTINE’S DAY,, February 6, 2004).


Hmmm…the festival of sexual license. This is what we are celebrating?

So at what point do we transition this to the day of love that people around the world war with their mates about, get depressed about, and stress about? LOL. Is that what love is truly about?

Sometimes we really need to take a moment and figure out exactly what we are saying, doing, and programming our continuing generations to accept and believe.

This is a huge reason why I homeschool. Of course my children see things on TV about Valentine’s day. Of course I have participated in drawing hearts with them. Of course I tell them I love them. But we do these things on many days, not just February 14th. My children know that they are loved whether they receive a Valentine’s day gift or not. My son will be taught to cherish and surprise his future mate on all days, not just the ones where commercialism reigns supreme. My daughter has been taught to expect fantastic treatment year round. There is nothing wrong with celebrating Valentine’s day…just know the truth and stop telling yourself a lie.

Happy heart day!!!


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